I was inspired, just now, by Lysa TerKeurst’s post: The Moment. Please take the time to go and read her blog post today. It will bless you.
My love and I have been together for 22 “Wonderful” years. There are many moments throughout our day that would cause deep heartache if they did not occur. If for some reason they ceased. Like Lysa, the mere thought causes my heart to contract with an ache so deep, at just the thought…
♥ actually the “Wonderful” after the 22 is also one of these moments. Without a relationship with God early in our relationship, we now know that God was forming us into who we are together! We began, without any teaching about the biblical Covenant of the Marriage (while living together, I might add.) that this was forever…that it was a “death do us part” deal. Somehow we knew. Then there was the rearranging of how we handled each other, even during the fights and disagreement (by the way there, blessedly and miraculously were not many; in fact I believe we are still only at maybe 5 that are memorable and more than a simple spat! Yes! in 22 Wonderful years!). We made an effort to speak positively, even before hearing and understanding “speaking those things…”, as scripture tells us.
Even in a strained conversation when I would begin (it’s always the woman who begins with this…) with, “We’ve been together ### years!!!” My loves response would be…”that’s ### WONDERFUL years…you forgot the wonderful!:” and then we would…
So I bet you now can imagine … what that one moment in a day, if missed, that would leave an eternal echo in my heart, should it not occur…even just once, let alone ever again…
After 22 “wonderful” years…there are so many…but I’d have to say…
It would be the laughter in the morning…
The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. ~e.e. cummings
Most times this man of mine and I, even on the not so pleasant mornings (My love is NOT a morning person, though…God…), somewhere we laugh!
When I take one of those mindless surveys in an e-mail or on facebook…you know the one where your friends want to know more about you…the one you begin out of boredom or stress and realize half way through some thirteen year old developed it…there is always, ALWAYS this questions:
What is your favorite sound?
and my answer is always…the SOUND OF MY MEN LAUGHING…
On the off days, and though I know they have occurred, I cannot recall one at the moment, that there is no morning laughter the day just isn’t the same until that MOMENT in our life, for that day, manifests. We are blessed to say, that even in the hardest of trials we have enjoyed laughter…
IN JOY WE HAVE LAUGHED, each day of this Wonderful 22 years! Seriously!
Like the caress Lysa and her husband share while turning down a collar; Our laughter is like that caress. Truly touching our hearts and marking a true “I Love YOU!” in the heart, on the day.
Psalm 126: 2-3
Our mouths were filled with laughter,
our tongues with songs of joy.
Then it was said among the nations,
“The LORD has done great things for them.”
The LORD has done great things for us,
and we are filled with joy.
A MOMENT between the two of us…that is so intimate that I cannot explain it in words.
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. ~Victor Borge
We all have these moments in our day…in our lives…There are those who do not realize that these moment occur in their day, even to the point of denial, believing that these moments do not happen for them. I ache for these sad ones and I say to them…Focus, yes, focus on your day…what little moment with your love; be it a husband or a beau or just a friend…what is that…
INTIMATE MOMENT that you have with this person that defines your love?
And when you find that MOMENT…treasure it, mark it on your heart…find scripture that speaks it to your memory and leads you to creating the moment, on purpose…
I hope this and Lysa’s post inspires you to find, or today CREATE, a moment, a thing between you and your love that becomes an ingrained practice in your relationship.
The one thing that when there is trouble…when the world tells you, you should just end it…walk away…your spirit says …
BUT WHAT IF I NEVER HEAR…SAY…SEE…FEEL…THIS WITH MY LOVE AGAIN…what if…
Don’t let that happen. It is these moments that create the foundation of a strong relationship!
PLEASE SHARE WITH ME AND YOUR FELLOW READERS/FOLLOWERS WHAT THAT MOMENT IS IN YOUR DAY, WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE…we would love to share this with you!
- Love & Stripes: Laughter (weddingbee.com)
- Laughing Your Way to Better Health (lifefoneblog.com)
- Climb up Sunshine Mountain (threestrong.net)
- Love and Laughter (bobsproductreview.wordpress.com)
- Hopeful. (writinglearninglaughing.wordpress.com)
- How a ‘best friendship’ works (cnn.com)
- Rituals to Soothe the Moms Soul (joyofspa.com)
- What inspires you? (cogitoergoblawg.wordpress.com)