On New Years Eve our Pastor announced that he’d be starting a new series for 2014 on Intentional Living … I simply smiled. Because of course that’s been the goal of this blog for years … though I have drifted in and out and didn’t write very much at all in 2013 … so I see this as a nudge to stay on track. And then I found out the WordPress will assist me (us) in maintaining a writing goal … YAY! So I set mine for once a week and now WordPress will gently remind me to write once a week … I’ll need it.
2013 brought many challenges to Hutchland the worst of which was cancer … The Hubs is doing well, though he got sick for the first time since this all began. It’s been a rough and frankly scary two days. But the fever is down and he has been resting comfortably for about 5 hours, finally! Praise God!
That explains why I missed a post yesterday about resolutions and The One Word Way!
I don’t make resolutions … I choose a word as a goal for the year … and for years it has been Wholeness. Wholeness in one area of life or another … mostly the health area, ever since the heart event, four years ago on June 2, 2014.
However Wholeness involves a WHOLE life … not just one area.
So this year it’s about Wholeness of Family!
Mine of course says Wholeness. It’s a good word and a great goal.
You see life is about growing and I think wholeness is about growing as well. Resolutions take away … they speak to losing something to make life better .
Its the adding of things to a life that makes it whole and complete and joyful … that’s why I love the idea of the One Word Movement … you can check it out at Rachel Olsen on Facebook.
Both ladies are from Proverbs 31 Women and EnCourage!
So back to my goal … Family Wholeness.
I wasn’t the greatest mother, we had a hard life my men and I. Then God … about 12 years ago grabbed hold of the Hutchinsons and it’s been growing ever since.
We’ve had hardship and joy … and over those 12 years we’ve all learned to handle this things in life properly. Yes there is a proper way to handle the hardships and joys of life; YES, even the joys. The learning, the living of this life has come to a place of comfortable-ness in the last several months … comfortable-ness during hardships actually.
I am slowly overcoming health and heart issues; my youngest is overcoming, Praise God!, addiction and now The Hubs is stomping all over cancer! Yet we are comfortably dealing with the struggles.
Mark this: We are NOT comfortable in or with the struggles! We are comfortable while we are dealing with the struggles.
The Hubs and I do not own our health issues. We are firm in the faith that those issues are NOT of God, therefore they are foreign matter that must leave our bodies … leading to our Wholeness of body and health. It’s a working out of us what is NOT of God. And anyone who deals with health issues knows it a working goal, each day.
However, God has spoken for 2014 and it began in September (on the 3rd) when we realized our family was more than just us and the boys that were still home! It was time to reevaluate boundaries we had set. Necessary boundaries that had expired and it was time to change them, because we have changed and we were mature enough to handle some of the most severe problems that comes with extended family contact. We were ready to go back to our loved ones … we had grown.
We had to forgive, ourselves first and then those we felt harmed us. I think I did this more knowledgeably then my men. Men, as we ladies know, don’t think or deal with logic in the way we do; and they reject anything that sounds like psycho-babble! =)
But that is the truth of the last 12 years. And in those years we dealt with ourselves and our family and our marriage and now everything is on an indestructible foundation that was set by God. And though fear was at the beginning of these reconciliation (at least for me) we (I) knew that the reconciliations must be made.
After all if God had a religion it would be Reconciliation. And if He reconciled us to Himself then we must reconcile ourselves to the families He put us in … so that we all could be reconciled to Him!
So in 2014 I will be intentionally living to bring Wholeness to Hutchland, beginning with the men that are home.
For me, caring for The Hubs and the family and Grandma and keeping in touch with my reclusive Dad can be frustrating, so for me, it has to be about continually seeing each of them as God sees them. To speak with respect to the men and with love to Grandma and sisters and moms … re-adding all the extended-s back to the family.
Forgetting the hurt and the pain and the abandonment and embracing the Love … just the love of who God put me in the middle of almost 49 years ago.
Wholeness is My One Word again … for the 3rd year.
What word do you chose?
Happy New Year my faithful friends! From Hutchland.